Blabbable Secrets

I was digging through my news reader (I use Google Reader) and I had to ask myself a question, “why are you subscribed to so many blogs?” Seriously!? I don’t have time to read all those blogs that I’m subscribed to and half the blogs I’m subscribed to just don’t get it anyway.

I don’t need to be subscribed to every single blog I do a link exchange with or do I? Honestly, there are quite a few reasons for unsubscribing from most of the blogs I used to read religiously. Maybe I should just start listing all of the reasons why I whittled away at my blog reading list.

I deleted your blog from my newsreader because:

1. You haven’t posted anything since October 2009
2. Your blog no longer exists
3. Your niche is not my niche
4. You haven’t posted anything since December 2009
5. You haven’t posted anything since July 2009
6. You are the asshole from hell
7. You don’t share anything I can relate to
8. You don’t allow anyone to comment
9. You are out of touch with the craft
10. You over-stocked your blog with crap

When was the very last time you went through your news reader? What’s in there? Are you subscribed to anything and everything that you actually have no interest in? Isn’t your time valuable to you? I’m so glad I whittled my list down. Now I don’t have to dig through a bunch of shit blogs that are wasting space in the blogosphere or my newsreader.

The United States Air Force called our home looking for our daughter. As soon as the lady started speaking I was thinking to myself, “Hallelujah!!! The answer to my prayers!!!”

I let her know right away what her mobile number was and how to reach her after she told me she was with The United States Air Force. She asked me what my thoughts were and if there was any interest in her joining the Air Force. I let the gal on the phone know right away that this would be a perfect match made in heaven.

She asked if she could let her know that we talked and I said, “No Way!!! Don’t tell her that we talked. If you do that then she would be quick to shoot down the idea. Her joining the Air Force has to be HER idea.” The gal on the phone laughed. I told her everything she needed to know in order to have a serious discussion about the possibility.

The Air Force would pay for 100% of her schooling. She would find discipline, have structure, she could work, have a roof over her head, collect a pay check, and travel!!! Why the hell not? The Air Force would shape her shit up quick! She would be good for the Air Force. She is smart! She could sign up and serve her country long enough to have the Air Force pay for all of her schooling plus expenses!

It was interesting because when I asked her how she got her phone list she said it was because of the No Child Left Behind. Phone lists are turned over to the government so that recruiters can call high school graduates to see if there is an interest in joining the military. Pretty Cool, eh? If you think about it – that’s fair. If the government is going to fund schools all over the country then the government should be able to freely recruit for the Armed Forces. That’s what happens when you look to the government for EVERYTHING. Those who are anti-military -  I don’t feel sorry for you.

We talked for a bit and I let her know we are all pro-military and that I grew up with a Dad that served in the Army. I found out she did too. She told me that she was thrilled to be on such a positive phone call because much of what she has to put up with is people screaming at her who want nothing to do with the military. What do you expect from people that want their freedom but can’t appreciate the sacrifice it takes to have that freedom?

I let her know that she should formulate her response on a piece of paper before she calls my daughter’s mobile number just in case she doesn’t answer the phone. I told her to make sure she touches on the travel part and the part where the Air Force covers 100% of all educational expenses. Those two things may entice her to seriously consider the Air Force.

I hope and pray it will be something that she considers. The Air Force would be so good for her. The discipline, job skills, 100% free tuition, a pay check, travel… THAT would be the PERFECT situation for her to get an honest to goodness DO-OVER so she can get her life together and start taking care of business!!!

Things have been interesting. I’m not too sure where to begin. We got that infamous “I miss you” phone call and I’m thinking to myself “Gee Whiz! I wonder what she wants now?” Whenever she calls home she’s either in trouble for something OR she needs $$$.

It turned out that she needed $$$ for art supplies for her art class, books for her other classes, and groceries. I jotted it down and let her know that I would have to think about it and talk it over with her dad. I took the opportunity to remind her of a few things that I’m pretty sure she didn’t want to be reminded of. Things like get a job, study hard, and make better choices.

At the beginning of the year we told her, “Do not take out a book loan. We will buy your books for classes.” She didn’t want to listen to us at the time. There are cheaper ways to get all of the books that you need for class. You do not have to go through the campus book store in order to do it. She was not thinking clearly. She decided a book loan was the way to go. We made it clear that we were not going to pay off any loans that she took out for herself.

She didn’t have to take out a loan for her tuition and my parents didn’t need to make her dorm payment. She had a kick ass job last summer making over $3K. Instead of paying for her classes or dorm fee she decided it would be more important to purchase plane tickets for the Ex-Dead-Beat-Sperm-Deposit. She blew all of her money on that trip.

Her Dad took her to pick up the art supplies that she needed for her “art” class. I’m sorry but art class is not going to help you with your future. Unless you are going to be an art teacher or have your own art gallery some day – you can be artsy fartsy on your own time. He went over the importance of looking at the class syllabus next time and taking classes that make sense because a syllabus will tell you what is required in order to take the class. We would have preferred to help her with lab fees or something like that – you know classes that actually go toward your degree?

The food situation is a joke! She lives here in town. She’s been fired from umpteen jobs. She’s partying it up with her friends, buying cigarettes and living “the life” of a party girl. We have been picking stuff up for her in bulk from Sam’s Club to try and help her. We’ve told her many times that we have food here at home too and that she is welcome to come home and eat with us. We’ve even offered to come and pick her up and bring her to dinner, etc.

Last night at the grocery store she was expecting her dad to pick up things like “air fresheners” – uh that’s not food, that’s not a need, and that’s not a necessity. If your dorm stinks then maybe you should clean it? (Her dorm smells pretty fowl actually. He told me last night that it smelled like ass.) So he made sure to pick up staples that she could fall back on until she gets a job. In the meantime we do not have enough money to fund her meals away from our home and her sisters. We do the best that we can with what we have and of course she doesn’t appreciate any of it.

They were going through the payout line at the grocery store and the cashier was making small talk with them and asked her, “Is that your Dad?” What do you think she said right there in front of him? She says, “No, that’s not my Dad.” He’s thinking to himself, “WTF do you mean I’m not your Dad?” But he didn’t go there. I could tell it was upsetting to him. I was pissed off when I heard that she had done that. I guess that is what he gets for not purchasing air freshener for her dorm.

When he took her back to help her bring up the groceries that he just bought for her they got stuck at the gate. She didn’t have her gate pass. Guess who came out with her gate pass to let them onto the property? Yep, the loser boyfriend. He is living with her in her room inside of the dorm. He’s not even in school. He dropped out last semester.

No. We are not going to do this again. We are not going to fund her unemployment or provide food staples so that she can continue to hook up, shack up, or whatever you want to call it!? We are not funding it. She does not get a “bail out” from us. We are into “helping” and not “enabling” her poor choices and her horrible behavior.

This is becoming interesting by the minute.

As you know from previous posts, the hospital called and so did the hotel. Well…I just got a phone call from the school.

It seems the school is looking for her. It’s so odd that they would call her here at home. She hasn’t really lived here at home since last June.

I let the gal know I was her Mom and gave her a mobile number so that she could try and reach her that way. She continued to let me know that she has important mail at the school. So… I told her if she reaches her on her mobile phone to let her know that she also has important mail here at home.

I seriously doubt anyone will be able to reach her. Her phone is probably shut off due to non-payment? After all, it is a brand new month.

why do i never have any food. blegh.

What a lovely update for your facebook account. Why don’t you go ahead and make everyone believe that you are starving to death at school so they will feel sorry for you?

The best part of the entire thread is when her boyfriend’s mom says:

There’s always food at my house…

She is the biggest enabler on the face of the planet! This is the same mother that thinks it’s ok to allow her son to have a car when she knows full well he is drinking and driving with it.

You don’t have food because you don’t come home to eat with your family.
You don’t have food because you got fired from job #3.
You don’t have food because you don’t grocery shop like a responsible person.
You don’t have food because every time we offer to take you grocery shopping you tell us you have everything under control.

We used to give her grocery store cards to use for grocery shopping but she chose to have somebody over the age of 21 use the cards to purchase alcohol instead.

You don’t have food because you are too busy partying.
You don’t have food because you wasted what money you did have have eating out.
You don’t have food because you don’t make having food in your dorm a priority.

She got in trouble at her dorm room because she was bringing the party back to her room. She was stocking her fridge full of booze and partying her ass off with her friends.

She’s been in trouble so much that they have had several meetings and have warned her over and over again that she would get kicked out if she continued this behavior.

What ever happened to Zero Tolerance? Why is she getting away with this crap?

You don’t have food because you were busy spending your money on lingerie.

She had overdraft after overdraft, fee after fee, because she was spending cash that she doen’t have on lingerie. Not Food but on LINGERIE.

You don’t have food because you never come home to eat with us any more.
You don’t have food because you don’t want to have food.
You don’t have food because it was your choice not to have food.
You don’t have food because you think it will just appear out of thin air.
You don’t have food because alcohol is more important.
You don’t have food because cigarettes are more important.
You don’t have food because marijuana is more important.
You don’t have food because YOU DON’T – IT WAS YOUR DECISION – YOUR CHOICE.

This is what her status update said before this latest one:

outback tonight yummy!!

Stop eating at Outback Steakhouse and you might have some food!

The Hotel called yesterday to inform us that our teenager had left her purse in one of the rooms. What was she doing at the hotel? Partying it up with her friends, of course!

We checked to make sure the room was not damaged and that it was not put under our name. We do not want to be associated with any type of extracurricular activities she is involved in at the hotel.

I have a sneaking suspicion that she will be hitting another rock bottom soon. I am not going to flip out or get stressed out over it. If I need to vent I will do so here.

I do not have to answer my telephone if I don’t want to. Let her sit and figure it out for herself the next time she calls.

She can’t be too proud of whatever it is that she is doing or did at the hotel…right?

When the phone rang my heart jumped. The last time I saw a hospital pop  up on the caller ID it was the Emergency Room calling for us to come and be with our teenager who had cut herself up as a result of being on a drunken binge.

Thankfully this time it was the nurse calling to let us know that they were going to go ahead and refill her birth control pills but that she was long over due as far as yearly exams and pap tests go. I let the nurse know that she isn’t living in our house at the moment and made sure to give her a mobile number where she could be reached.

I also told the nurse that it was perfectly fine to go ahead and refill those birth control pills via mail order and that if they needed her to pay a co-pay when she came in for her exam to give us a call and we would pay for that over the phone.

I guess today I just wanted to say that I am glad and relieved that my daughter is making a conscious effort to keep from becoming pregnant. The fact that she is sexually active is not the most ideal scenario but at least she is protecting herself from becoming pregnant at a young age. Sexually Transmitted Disease Prevention, well.. that’s another ball of wax I hope she is keeping in the back of her mind.

I came across this bible verse the other day. I wish I had referenced it or had knowledge of it before I got her dramatic phone call announcing that she was leaving town. This is what it said:

But Moses told the people, “Don’t be afraid. Just stand still and watch the Lord rescue you today. The Egyptians you see today will never be seen again. The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” Exodus 14: 13-14

Reading this verse and relating it to the story in the Bible is a reminder that I do not need to be afraid of what my teenager is doing. When she breaks her dramatic news to me I can rest and be sure that the Lord will rescue me. God will handle the situation no matter how disturbing it seems to me at that moment. I can remain calm. I keep telling myself that now when I find my mind is wondering what she is up to and starting to worry all over again.

Went out with some friends I had not seen in a long time. We were sitting around the table catching up on the latest news and sharing with each other what’s been going on in our own lives.

Let me just say that until you have a teenager or get through the teen years with flying colors – you can not make a recommendation as to what somebody else can or should be doing with their teen.

Nothing is more irritating than when a “friend” is quick to jump all over you before you can even finish your point. I didn’t ask you for your opinion. We were all venting about our own situations. It was catch-up time.

Who do you think you are telling me anything. Until the Hospital calls you at 11:30 at night because your kid has been admitted due to severe cutting and drunkenness – Shut Your Mouth. I don’t want to hear from you.

You know that big fat log sticking out of your eye? You better figure out how to pluck it right out and realize that other people have situations different from yours. Keep your mouth shut! Nobody cares what you have to say about it unless they ask for your opinion.

I don’t quite recall asking for your advice. Somebody needs to get you a mirror for your Birthday or for Christmas so you can look at yourself. On second thought.. maybe you look at yourself too much.

Show some willingness to walk a mile in the other person’s shoes or to envision what you might do and how you might handle the situation if it were you. But think about this.. you do not know or understand the situation until and unless you can allow your friend to fully and completely vent and share without judgment.

I am a reality TV junkie. I watch the Housewives of Orange County, MTV’s Real World, Battle of the Sexes, Gauntlets, and now I’ve been into The Jersey Shore too.

I have heard that the gang is coming back for a 2nd season. They are in negotiations now and have until the end of the day to sign their contracts. They were each offered $10k per episode to come back.

I don’t know if the gal on the bottom row all the the way to the right is included in this deal. I don’t see why she would be since she skipped out on the first season. She is probably having regrets now, eh?

10k per episode. Are you kidding me? If they have like 12 or 13 episodes – you do the math! That’s a lot of money! They could totally go back to school and finish up if they wanted to do that. If school is even part of the picture.

Will I be watching season 2? Yes, I will be watching season 2. It’s too entertaining for me and I have no idea why that is. I think it’s the curiosity of seeing how other people live their lives. I don’t understand how they do it – do you?

She has declared her relationship with her boyfriend on Facebook. Of course I have known all along that they were still together. I don’t know why they were trying to hide it.

I’m not too particularly crazy about her friends posting Facebook updates about how they walked into the bathroom, she was in the shower, and he was taking a dump on the toilet. That’s way too much information for Facebook. Don’t you think?

They are not supposed to have anybody living in the dorms with them. I’m surprised she isn’t getting in trouble for that one. I wonder what her grandparents would say if they knew they had forked out dorm fees for the entire year so that her boyfriend could live there too?